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My 80s Crush

21 Friday Sep 2012

Posted by K.Lo in random

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Yesterday, as I was scrambling some eggs, Mussorgsky’s “Pictures at an Exhibition” came on the classical radio station I listen to every morning.  Usually the station plays Ravel’s orchestral version, but yesterday they aired it in its original form–played by a single pianist–which is, by far, my favorite version.  It’s my favorite in part because all of that intensity and richness coming out of a single instrument is somehow more majestic and dramatic to me than when it’s dispersed throughout an orchestra.  But it’s also my favorite because it conjures up memories of one of my most intense ‘celebrity’ crushes growing up.

While all the other girls at my junior high were swooning over Duran Duran and putting up posters of Simon Le Bon, I was enthralled by an Irish concert pianist named Barry Douglas.  He was the winner of the Tchaikovsky competition in 1986, which was aired in a documentary on PBS that my family watched together after dinner one evening.  Both of my parents loved classical music, and all four of us kids took piano lessons.  For a number of years we had two pianos in the house just so we could all fit in the hours of practicing required–one in the living room, and one shoved between my sister’s and my bunkbed and the closet.  It wasn’t until I was in college that I realized growing up with a piano in your bedroom wasn’t exactly the norm.

Someone was always practicing piano at my house, and very often two of us were at the same time, which I would use to my advantage whenever I could manage to be the one practicing in the back bedroom.  I would prop whatever novel I was currently engrossed in on the music stand and keep reading while I played scales and arpeggios over and over.  It usually took awhile for anyone to catch on and bust me (yes, my rebellious behavior growing up was reading books when I was supposed to be working on my piano technique).  One of the things I missed the most when my older siblings went off to college was hearing them on the piano, working through the same passage over and over until it flowed (my mother shouting comments from the kitchen where she was making dinner–“Ugh, that was so sloppy!” and later “Beautiful!”).  I can’t even begin to count the number of nights I fell asleep listening to someone playing the piano.

So, all of that to say that the Tchaikovsky Competition (beat the Russians at their own game in their own country!) was a very big deal.  There were a lot of engaging and appealing contestants featured in the documentary, but Barry was first in my heart from the beginning.  There were several rounds in the competition, the finale being Tchaikovsky’s piano concerto, which was played by every single one of the finalists.  This is the piece he won with and this is the work he recorded in his first major recording after the competition (which I bought on cassette tape as soon as it was released).  But the performance I’ll never forget is the one earlier in the competition where he played Mussorgsky.  Here he is, in all of his twitchy, sweaty, handsome, masterful glory–owning this piece like nobody’s business and, in turn, winning the heart of a nerdy seventh grader in braces and thick glasses:

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Limits

15 Saturday Sep 2012

Posted by K.Lo in home ownership, writing

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I’ve been sitting here, staring at a blank screen and blinking cursor for several minutes now, trying to figure out how and where to start writing this entry.  Partly, it’s because I am near-stupid with fatigue, and partly it’s because I just got a whiff of something vaguely mildew-ish as I was walking down my hallway and I can’t stop thinking about it.  I’ve been getting these faint whiffs on and off for awhile now, and even after thorough investigations that may have involved my crawling on the floor and sniffing the floor and baseboards like a bloodhound, I am unable to find the source of said smell.  It just wafts through the air at random times like some spirit sent to torment me.

A friend has suggested that since my house is on a raised foundation, it could be that water is somehow getting under the house and not draining properly, and this is what’s causing my issue.  This seems a very likely possibility to me.  It also seems like a complicated and expensive one.  I don’t even know who I would call to address this.  So for now I am pretending that this issue doesn’t exist and it will magically resolve itself if I just ignore it enough, which I am successful at about 70% of the time.  Then the whiffs come and I am sent into a tailspin of anxiety and re-tracing my options until I come to the same conclusion that I can’t (or don’t want to) deal with it right now.

Strange smells are not the only thing complicating my writing practice.  In the last month, I have made some small progress in my novel revision and even managed to knock out a couple drafts of poems, but the two words that could best describe my writing practice lately would be “sparse” and “sporadic.”  This is mainly because I started a new school year the last week of August and am back to working 9-hour days.  This might not seem that momentous considering lots of people work 9-hour days, but for me it kind of is because by the time I get home from said workday, I am often a wreck–physically exhausted and usually experiencing a modest to significant amount of pain.  Which means my brain isn’t working so well either.  This is partly because teaching English at a public high school with large classes (typically between 35-40 each) is an extremely time- and energy-consuming job.  But it’s also because of something else that I’ve been doing my best to ignore and pretend doesn’t really affect me.  I have fibromyalgia, and with every passing year–especially the last couple years–it’s become almost impossible to ignore.  The whiffs are getting stronger.

I’ve heard all the same stories everyone else has about writers who have juggled crazy lives, working multiple jobs and/or raising multiple children, all the while carving out time to write at 4:00 in the morning or working late into the night and surviving on 4 hours’ sleep in order to pursue their passion.  The message is, if you want it badly enough, you can make it happen.  This is true in many ways, and because of this mostly true idea, I have been wracked with guilt.  If I really wanted to write regularly, I would make it happen.  Ergo, I must not really want it.  But I do.  It makes me incredibly sad when two or more days go by and I haven’t done any writing/revision.  It’s depressing.  I pine.  And then I clobber myself with the conviction that I must not want it enough or really be serious about writing or I would be making it happen.

But being a good teacher these days (which is also something I have a passion for) uses me up to the point where I come home some evenings so tired that I have to really think about whether it’s worth expending the energy to take the pre-washed lettuce out of the bag and put it into a bowl.  Which leads me to this profound and probably already-obvious-to-everyone-else conclusion: sometimes wanting something isn’t enough.  Sometimes you can truly love and long for something and life circumstances just don’t allow it.

Oddly enough, this is a relief to me.  It means I don’t have to keep feeling horrible about feeling horrible.  It means that instead of trying to strive for some impossible and unachievable perfect balance, in which I am doing all the work necessary to be a good teacher AND to be a good writer AND taking care of my house AND overcoming my physical limitations through sheer force of will, I can have some bad days.  I can start to come to terms with the reality I’m living in and focus on what does work even with my limitations.  What I am able to achieve even though it’s not as much as I might like.  And, most importantly of all, I can truthfully claim that writing is deeply important to me, even if some weeks all I can manage is a half hour on Saturday.

This is hard, because most days I still want to do it all.  But sometimes, I just can’t.

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